We know it can get more difficult over time, and that it can be hard to talk about. It affects whole families too.
"At first I accepted that this was Nature’s Way and took comfort that statistically I still had a 95% chance of another successful pregnancy. Over time I felt the psychological impact of recurrent miscarriages which many women experience. I asked questions such as, ‘Why is my body letting me down?’ and ‘What have we done to deserve this?’"
Mother to Selim Terhzaz after treatment from our clinic at Warwick in 2012
"Miscarriage is so common and yet is rarely talked about. Unlike other forms of grief, people seem reluctant to mention it, whether that’s through fear of causing upset or worries about saying the wrong thing."
"For men there are no physical consequences of miscarriage. Society expects them to carry on, be strong and look after their wife. The reality is that women don’t suffer miscarriages alone. Families suffer miscarriage together."
Parents to Blake Burton after treatment from our clinic at Warwick in 2014
It can be hard to find a reason
"It had a devastating effect on our lives, putting a strain on our relationship and making normal day to day living virtually impossible. Initially we could not find a cause for these recurrent miscarriages which only added to the sense of loss and frustration."
One anonymous couple suffered multiple miscarriages before being treated by our clinic.
Their children were born thanks to the team’s care.
For me and others I know, from the moment we’ve seen a line on a test, we know that baby. We name them, imagine them growing, create stories ... and then just like that, they’re gone. But there’s no funeral, just a gaping silence, and the months tick by until what would have been the due date, and no one else really notices at all. A friend of mine gave birth on what would have been my first due date. I was a wreck! I’m lucky to work with some lovely people who understand - it would be horrendous otherwise.
I'm about to start the process at the Coventry clinic and am glad that we might find some answers.I think the best “advice” I can give to anyone who has gone through a miscarriage is to be kind to yourself. You’re allowed to grieve. I also found help and solace on forums like Mumsnet, where Siobhan Quenby at Warwick is one of the ‘bigger’ names in miscarriage research.
Kate, New patient at our clinic
Our experts are hard at work trying to help
"We’ve celebrated with our patients, and we’ve grieved with them too. In a way, I look forward to the day when our work is no longer needed. Until that time I hope we’re able to help as many couples as possible, and I’ll join families in remembering their loved ones this week.
Professor Jan Brosens
Professor of Obstetrics and Gynaecology
I have enormous sympathy for every patient who’s referred to us. It’s wonderful when we’re able to help a family, but I don’t think they ever forget the children they lost along the way. That’s why this week is so important.
Professor Siobhan Quenby
Professor of Obstetrics
More information » warwick.ac.uk/MiscarriageClinic
We hope you find your happy ending too.